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A walk along the river is the perfect nightcap to any date and the guy will always walk me up afterwards, “to make sure I get home safe. Girls don’t need tricks to get guys to come home with them at the end of dates but I happen to have an excellent one anyway: I live in a condo along the river in my city. He smiled mischievously and said, “You have no idea.” I told him that was too bad, the idea of a guy being associated with something somewhat dangerous was exciting. He asked me about my writing and he told me about messing around with a popular edgy publication when he went to college with the founder but now he had to keep his distance because he’s a lawyer and the legal world is super conservative. He complimented my lip color - it’s always a great sign when a man isn’t intimidated by lipstick. We met up at the corner dive bar where I prefer to meet all my first dates. When I met Paul online I expected the same cycle to occur. It just wasn’t second nature for me to be tied down and predictable. I’d do things like leave town for days without telling him or bringing my phone, or stay in bed with a book all day and forget to answer his texts. But for whatever reason it never lasted very long. Dating them was fun, the balance between a mans personality and my own feminine one was electric, it kept things interesting. It wasn’t that I wasn’t interested - I’d always loved men.
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I thought I was looking for a boyfriend when I set up my online dating profile.
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By Adrienne West Updated January 12, 2019